Disability and Xenophilia
Sep. 30th, 2024 02:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ysabetwordsmithandr0meda posted this brilliant observation:"Was browsing a comment chain related to disabled women discussing their love for human × nonhuman romance because I was bored and stumbled across the following:
"Finding comfort in something “alien” (maybe in the literal sense) that has no preconceived notion of you on a societal level, just falling in love with who you are as a person, on the inside. It’s desirable, the removal of society from your relationship."
I figured my audience would grok this.
Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 09:56 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 10:16 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 11:06 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-10-01 12:14 am (UTC)It made perfect sense to me because society is just soooo much baggage. Get someone who is not from around here, or not human, and a lot of the things bugging you just aren't there.
Bonus points if you find someone whose species doesn't even have the thing that humans think you are "missing" like a blind person hooking up with a cave-dwelling lover whose people don't even have eyes.
Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-10-01 11:30 pm (UTC)I actually read a fanfic that had a friendship version of this - the human was 'monstrous' [i.e. a Deathworlder] to the aliens, but had a hard time bonding with other humans because he was neurodivergent. Given the in-universe conflicts, the aliens are mostly okay with bonding once they figure out the human is a) friendly, b) not full grown, and c) extremely protective once he's pack-bonded.
Plus it's a good way to screen for people willing to put in effort - anyone who wanted an easy, off-the-shelf relationship would have just stayed home.