Disability and Xenophilia
Sep. 30th, 2024 02:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ysabetwordsmithandr0meda posted this brilliant observation:"Was browsing a comment chain related to disabled women discussing their love for human × nonhuman romance because I was bored and stumbled across the following:
"Finding comfort in something “alien” (maybe in the literal sense) that has no preconceived notion of you on a societal level, just falling in love with who you are as a person, on the inside. It’s desirable, the removal of society from your relationship."
I figured my audience would grok this.
Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 09:56 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 10:16 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-09-30 11:06 pm (UTC)Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-10-01 12:14 am (UTC)It made perfect sense to me because society is just soooo much baggage. Get someone who is not from around here, or not human, and a lot of the things bugging you just aren't there.
Bonus points if you find someone whose species doesn't even have the thing that humans think you are "missing" like a blind person hooking up with a cave-dwelling lover whose people don't even have eyes.
Re: Kind of, I think...
Date: 2024-10-01 11:30 pm (UTC)I actually read a fanfic that had a friendship version of this - the human was 'monstrous' [i.e. a Deathworlder] to the aliens, but had a hard time bonding with other humans because he was neurodivergent. Given the in-universe conflicts, the aliens are mostly okay with bonding once they figure out the human is a) friendly, b) not full grown, and c) extremely protective once he's pack-bonded.
Plus it's a good way to screen for people willing to put in effort - anyone who wanted an easy, off-the-shelf relationship would have just stayed home.
On the flipside...
Date: 2024-10-01 12:29 am (UTC)I think I've seen that more from the neurodivergent side of disability. It seems like this version is more geared toward physical disability. I wonder if that's a real pattern--the nature of one's disability influencing whether you see yourself more in the monster or the monsterfucker.
Re: On the flipside...
Date: 2024-10-01 12:49 am (UTC)Fascinating.
>>I think I've seen that more from the neurodivergent side of disability. It seems like this version is more geared toward physical disability. I wonder if that's a real pattern--the nature of one's disability influencing whether you see yourself more in the monster or the monsterfucker.<<
There is definitely a cluster of people with physical disabilities who identify with or as monsters.
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Date: 2024-10-01 11:39 pm (UTC)Ax could be a platonic version of this. There's a fan theory that he is neurodivergent (which would explain why he is the only alien who acts that specific kind of weird, and also possibly why he never seems to talk about friends from home/prior postings). But to human teenagers, you expect to explain Human Skills 101 to your space alien friend.